Monday, October 15, 2007

interactive blog

So in light of a few things ive been dealing with lately, i wanted to start something different...

Tell me what does the word "father"or "Dad" mean to you? And what role do you think they play in the family?

Now give me some time to answer my own blog, because i want to be able to answer this completely and without getting pissed...so i want to think about what i write first...but it came to me while i was cooking dinner tonight...

2 comments:

Stump Home said...

This may be a long comment. :-)

1. a male parent.

2. a father-in-law, stepfather, or adoptive father.

3. any male ancestor, esp. the founder of a race, family, or line; progenitor.

4. a man who exercises paternal care over other persons; paternal protector or provider: a father to the poor.

5. a person who has originated or established something: the father of modern psychology; the founding fathers.

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There were several more but I will spare you the novella.

Here are some links about what Dad's are supposed to do:

http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=114&np=99&id=1762

http://ask.metafilter.com/40415/What-does-it-take-to-be-a-dad

Wikipedia never lets you down:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Father

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All of that is great and good, but I believe an absentee father will do one of two things, totally screw up a child, or cause the child to become the most responsible person on the planet. I don't think there is a black or white issue on that statement. I don't care if it is a blanket statment. From my personal experience from having no dad to having a dad completely involved I can say for me this was the case. I was on the road to screwing up. Now I am on a better road, I might never have been on, had I never healed the relationship w/ my dad.

That being said, I think parental responsibilities are or should be, equal. I think both sexes are just as capable of making something great, or messing it up completely. Studies show though, that the same sex parent will have the greatest influence on a child. I believe that.

Mandy said...

The word father is very legalistic to mean. I think of terms like "natural father" or "biological father". Any man can be a father.

Dad is more personal to me. Dad is the guy who throws the baseball around with you, comes to your band recitals, or gives you away at your wedding. "Dad" goes beyond biology. I have seen some amazing Dads who are adoptive parents or step-parents. These men, especially, have huge hearts.

-Mandy @ http://www.barefootdevotions.com